She Feels Good Because That Is Her State Of Mind

Anonymous: Why did I have to miss out? I missed out on what everyone else experienced. I am still missing out on what everyone else is experiencing!

It all seems to come down to the inner game, and your overall mindset or mentality.

I once heard the story of a contest winner who won a trip on a cruise ship, and yet sat in their cabin alone and hungry because they didn’t understand that the activities and meals were included in the cruise package.

We often miss out because we feel that we aren’t attractive enough. We don’t deserve it. A woman is out of our league. She’ll probably say no. And we have already defeated ourselves before getting out of the starting gate.

In the AFC mindset, some guys are like sexual anorexics. What do I mean by that? Let’s look at the traditional anorexic:

1. The anorexic woman feels that food is her enemy.

2. However, she needs food to survive.

3. She will force herself to the point of starvation, only to eat as a survival mechanism.

4. Afterward, her mental guilt will make her vomit out the food.

How does this translate to some AFCs?

1. The sexually anorexic male feels that women (or sex with women) are his enemy. This may be on a strictly subconscious level.

2. However, he has a sex drive and a heterosexual orientation.

3. He may feel anything from melancholy about his perceived inability to attract a woman to a seething hatred towards women. I heard one guy say that he felt women were made of “unobtanium,” and the woman he said this to mercilessly tore him to shreds (verbally). His mental state starves him socially, yet he blames it on women and keeps trying for his social/sexual survival. Unfortunately, his attempts are the equivalent of binging: no true appreciation of or savor for what is before him.

4. If he does find a willing partner, he (consciously or subconsciously) does something to kill the opportunity, turn the woman off, or otherwise shoot himself in the foot.

I have had such a mental dichotomy in the past. However, once I learned to get past that, women being naked and willing with me became my reality. When I slip into old patterns because of stress or other mental roadblocks, I have the presence of mind to recognize it and work on recalibrating.

It is not necessarily about using the “magic” patterns, weasel words or methods. Not to nay-say those things: they do indeed work, and quite effectively so. But they will not work if your mind is fighting against your own desires.

What the original post does not mention is what the guy is doing when he attempts to meet women, have a relationship or whatever.

It is like he is pressing his face against the window of a restaurant and wondering why he can’t eat. Other people are eating. So, why not him?

If you are at that proverbial restaurant, ask yourself:

1. Do I lack finances?

2. Do I not have a reservation?

Resolve those issues
get what you need to go inside and feast. However, you can have pockets overflowing with hundreds and plenty of available tables
you still need the determination to go into the restaurant and place your order.

If you are afraid that they are out of what you want, don’t get stuck on it. I’ve experienced that
and with the right level of finesse, I get a free dessert or some other lagniappe from my server in exchange for ordering what is available.

If you approach a set or a single woman
and if all does not go as you may have it mapped out in your head
just be flexible and see where it might lead.

I often say that I never have expectations. That way, I am never disappointed, and always pleasantly surprised.


Anonymous: She gets to feel good around the opposite sex without effort! She gets to have social fun without any effort! I have to work hard! I have to think about this stuff and it still doesn’t work!

She feels good because that is her state of mind. She doesn’t apply effort because she doesn’t see it that way. Granted, it is an effort for her to do her hair, makeup, and wardrobe. But does she sit around crying about how hard she works to look good and no men notice her? Nope!


I was at a club where this hot chick was carrying on because the guy she wanted was with another girl. My buddies and I thought about approaching her, but she started fighting the other chick and got physically carried outside and ejected by the bouncers. She stomped to her car crying. At that point nobody wanted her. She may have been hot, but she was a psycho!

Most women go out expecting to capture the attention of the men. Whether or not she is interested in them, it is an ego boost to get a lot of attention. She also wants to stand out above her competition (other women). Still, I have seen women in overalls with no makeup or nice hairdo who attracted every guy in the room. It was because they exuded a mindset that made them shine above all of the “supermodels” in the room.

So, again
it comes down to mentality more than anything. Free your mind, all else will follow.

I remember years ago, I was talking about a successful series of closes on one of the seduction boards. One guy asked if I looked like Brad Pitt. I told him I looked like Bad Shitt. But with the right mentality, you can walk into an establishment alongside Brad, Leo, and Jake and (social proof of being with those guys notwithstanding) rule the roost. But only if your inner game and mental state are right.

Solving the Algebra Equation by Ice Dragon

Every feeling that you get is created by you. Every emotion and every thought you have ever had is a product of your own imagination. No external force can get inside your head unless you let it. Would you ever allow anyone to dump their garbage in your garden? Of course not. So why let anyone pour garbage into your mind?

If you’re feeling ecstatic, sad, lonely, angry, miserable, depressed – it’s all down to you.

Face it, if everything you see is yellow, you need to get your eyes checked out for jaundice. Two different guys can see totally different things. One can look down and see the mud beneath his feet, the other can look up and gaze at the stars. If you see negativity and cynicism in the world around you, what are women going to see in you?

Bullshit, I’m hearing a lot of you say. The world is an unfair, ugly place. If so-and-so didn’t do that to me, if so-and-so didn’t say this to me, I wouldn’t feel down. I would have the woman I desire, the job I crave, I’d be who I wanted to be. That would make me happy.

Maybe you think this article does not directly relate to pick up and seduction. Maybe it does not give you any cool new openers or techniques, or a juicy lay report. Change that maybe to probably; even if it was definitely, I still want to get this message across. Trust me, if you internalize this, then not only will you be happier, you will improve the lives of those around you, and you will attract the kind of women you seek. All women are emotional creatures, and as a man, it is your job to ensure that you are emotionally stable, so that you can transfer some of your masculine stability onto her. The woman will never want to leave you. Ready to take your inner game to a new level? Good. Read on.

I had a beginner student at my martial arts class last night, and he stayed back at the end of the class and had a chat with me. “What are you looking for from the martial arts training ?” I enquired. “Well, I want to get a black belt, and to be able to do the splits.” Interesting. I asked him if that would make him happy. I told him to think about it for a minute before answering. He was genuinely dumbfounded, and didn’t have an answer to that, except, “Wow, what did you do just there? I’ll never know. But you put things into perspective.”

Just now, I got back from watching the Marco Antonio Barrera vs. Amir Khan boxing match with some buddies in their apartment. I had left my girlfriend in a happy mood, she was reading her new “Confessions of a Shopaholic” book I bought her and painting her toenails.

I came back, and she was sitting there all miserable. Apparently, she’s worried about her skin because she got a couple of zits on her face. I told her plain and clear, “Listen carefully because I’m not going to sit here and hold your hand. When I left you here three hours ago, you were happy. Now you’re miserable. Has there been any change in circumstances since that time elapsed ?” She shook her head. “Then you’ve created this reality inside your own head. You have chosen to be miserable. But, you’re not going to make me miserable with you, because I’m feeling great.” Then I left to go to the living room.

She came to me around 30 minutes later and apologized. Then I reminded her of a funny moment we had, and she burst out laughing. A simple change in a person’s thought process will create a whole new reality.

I could have chosen to sit with her and wallow in her “pain.” “Oh, it’s okay baby, everything will be just fine, please don’t cry, you are so beautiful.”

That is not alpha behavior, for a start, and it is the polar opposite of emotional stability.

After I had changed her emotion, I came up with a solution for her zits. “Make an appointment with your doctor first thing Monday morning. It may be an allergy to something that you wear, something that you ate. Or, it could be hormones. In the meantime, I’ll Google some herbal, homeopathic remedy for you.”

Who was it that said, “Worrying is like trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing gum ?” Baz Luhrmann, I think.

Make time for yourself. Spend quality time on yourself, developing yourself. Look after you. Treat yourself to a nice walk by the lake, got to an expensive seafood restaurant by yourself during lunch, take a walk to the shopping mall, buy that ice-cream you’ve been looking at, treat yourself to a new watch. Enjoy being with just yourself and your thoughts. Learn to say no to people. If anyone calls you up and you’re at work, you would most likely say, “Sorry, I’m at work, I’ll call you back when I finish.”

Why is it that when you’re by yourself, and in your thoughts, and someone calls you and wants something, you’ll do it for them because you’re “Not doing anything ?” You would feel guilty and selfish if you didn’t. Of course, you are doing something. You’re looking after number one, and gathering your thoughts. Like tending a garden. Don’t be a pleaser. Tell them you’re busy, and you’ll call them in your own time. Why people treat their jobs as being more important than their person, their own “selves,” their own “mental peace,” is beyond my comprehension.

Bottom line. Look after yourself, and create your own reality. Become emotionally powerful and unshakeable. Cultivate your inner game regularly, and girls, money, jobs, and friends, will flock to you.

Sasha’s Semi-Ultimate Day Game Opening Guide

Hey kids!

Opening is a strong point of mine, so I though I’d write an article breaking down some of my thoughts and strategies. So welcome to:

“Sasha’s Semi-Ultimate Day Game Opening Guide!”

Everyone is always asking, “What’s the best opener?” I know it’s been said before, but I’ll say it again – it doesn’t really matter. If you have a good vibe and you’re smiling, anything works. It’s really my overall attitude and fun energy that is getting girls interested in talking to me. That being said, a good opener always helps!

Oh – keep in mind that I very much have my own style for opening. Not all openers suit all types of guys. Calibration may be required ߘ Although there are plenty of ways to open – direct, indirect, non-verbally – my preferred method in the day time is direct/funny, or situational/funny, or situational/direct/funny. Hah? Situational/direct/funny? What the hell is that? That’s me!

For example:

“Nice shoes. God damn you’re hot, I almost bumped into that signpost!”

Cute, huh? It’s one of my own. In fact, in parts 2 and 3, I’ll be sharing some of my killer openers that have never been shared outside the LSS (my lair.) So, let’s get started!

Right, opening is important. It’s really important. If you don’t open, you never meet the girl. And I think you’ll find meeting the girl is really of paramount importance when it comes to
well, anything that comes after meeting a girl.

It is my belief that you have to make a tremendous impression in the first 5 seconds of the opening. Otherwise, you’re going to lose the woman’s attention. That’s right – 5 seconds!

Imagine a socially awkward, nervous guy approaching a woman. How long before she recognizes his insecurity and blows him out? Imagine it now for a moment.

“Hey, I uhh
my name

There. He’s done. To stutter then took about 3 seconds in my head. Maybe 4. By 5 seconds, she’s already turned her back on him.

So – how do you get her attention? By being original. Even before that, by not having bad body language, coming across as needy, or staring at her tits
do get your basics down as they are very important. But after that, the key is

Now, I thought I might mention a few “typical” things guys say to pick up girls
the few that actually have the audacity to approach women in the day.

Before I share my super fun awesome openers with you guys – let’s take a look at what DOESN’T work! I’ve spoken to a few ladies on the topic and I’ve come up with the few things that women are hearing from the guys out there that DO have the moxy to open during the day. Unfortunately “balls” doesn’t equal “game.” Here are a few examples:

The #1 afc daygame opener is (are you ready for it

“Hey. I’m a banker. Here’s my card, give me a call sometime. (Wink)”

Yep. There you have it folks. No, I’m not kidding.

No, I didn’t just make that up.

Do I really have to break down why this is absolutely horrifically bad? What you are saying is this: “I’m going to try to impress/bribe you with my money. Even though I am more successful than you, I totally fear you because you are beautiful. Hey. I have no idea how to talk to women.”

Next one: “Wow, you’re so pretty. Are you a model?”

Uggggh. WOW! REALLY? Yeah really. Hell, this used to be my opener pre-game. Why? Because I really didn’t know what to say. The woman is soooo hot, I’m blown away. I didn’t know how to deal with it. Most guys still don’t.

This is tantamount to simply saying, “I have no clue how to talk to desirable women!”

Another popular one:

“Hi you’re cute. Can I get your number?


“Hi you’re cute. Let’s get a drink sometime”

Going for the number straight away (though it may work on occasion) isn’t exactly tight game. Where’s the comfort? Where’s the attraction? Most numbers attained in this fashion will be flakes. But amazingly, some girls will give their number out and meet up with you in this scenario. Looking like Brad Pitt would help. At least here you’ve let the girl know that you like her, which is something.

Those of course, are the unoriginal openers that involve talking.

Then there’s the whistling/cat calling. Oh yeah. That gets the ladies turned on.

In European countries (yes, mainly I’m talking about Italy here) men will whistle as girls walk by. In the US, it’s more like, “Heyy hot stuff! Looking gooood!” Which is pretty much the same thing. All I can say is this:

I don’t think I’ve ever seen or heard of a women ever, ever, ever turning around after being whistled at by a guy, walking up to them and saying “Say, that’s some nice whistling there. Here, take my number. Maybe we can meet up later and we can see if you can fuck as good as you can whistle?” Yikes. As I was saying

An opener should be original, entertaining, and direct. You want to let the woman know you are interested, but in a fun, non-needy way that diffuses the awkward tension that might be associated with one stranger approaching another in a public area (for sex.) At least, that’s my style.

Right – now that’s I’ve covered what NOT to do, next time I’ll get into what does work, including my recipe list for what makes a great daygame opener! See you then!

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