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Solving the Algebra Equation by Ice Dragon

Every feeling that you get is created by you. Every emotion and every thought you have ever had is a product of your own imagination. No external force can get inside your head unless you let it. Would you ever allow anyone to dump their garbage in your garden? Of course not. So why let anyone pour garbage into your mind?

If you’re feeling ecstatic, sad, lonely, angry, miserable, depressed – it’s all down to you.

Face it, if everything you see is yellow, you need to get your eyes checked out for jaundice. Two different guys can see totally different things. One can look down and see the mud beneath his feet, the other can look up and gaze at the stars. If you see negativity and cynicism in the world around you, what are women going to see in you?

Bullshit, I’m hearing a lot of you say. The world is an unfair, ugly place. If so-and-so didn’t do that to me, if so-and-so didn’t say this to me, I wouldn’t feel down. I would have the woman I desire, the job I crave, I’d be who I wanted to be. That would make me happy.

Maybe you think this article does not directly relate to pick up and seduction. Maybe it does not give you any cool new openers or techniques, or a juicy lay report. Change that maybe to probably; even if it was definitely, I still want to get this message across. Trust me, if you internalize this, then not only will you be happier, you will improve the lives of those around you, and you will attract the kind of women you seek. All women are emotional creatures, and as a man, it is your job to ensure that you are emotionally stable, so that you can transfer some of your masculine stability onto her. The woman will never want to leave you. Ready to take your inner game to a new level? Good. Read on.

I had a beginner student at my martial arts class last night, and he stayed back at the end of the class and had a chat with me. “What are you looking for from the martial arts training ?” I enquired. “Well, I want to get a black belt, and to be able to do the splits.” Interesting. I asked him if that would make him happy. I told him to think about it for a minute before answering. He was genuinely dumbfounded, and didn’t have an answer to that, except, “Wow, what did you do just there? I’ll never know. But you put things into perspective.”

Just now, I got back from watching the Marco Antonio Barrera vs. Amir Khan boxing match with some buddies in their apartment. I had left my girlfriend in a happy mood, she was reading her new “Confessions of a Shopaholic” book I bought her and painting her toenails.

I came back, and she was sitting there all miserable. Apparently, she’s worried about her skin because she got a couple of zits on her face. I told her plain and clear, “Listen carefully because I’m not going to sit here and hold your hand. When I left you here three hours ago, you were happy. Now you’re miserable. Has there been any change in circumstances since that time elapsed ?” She shook her head. “Then you’ve created this reality inside your own head. You have chosen to be miserable. But, you’re not going to make me miserable with you, because I’m feeling great.” Then I left to go to the living room.

She came to me around 30 minutes later and apologized. Then I reminded her of a funny moment we had, and she burst out laughing. A simple change in a person’s thought process will create a whole new reality.

I could have chosen to sit with her and wallow in her “pain.” “Oh, it’s okay baby, everything will be just fine, please don’t cry, you are so beautiful.”

That is not alpha behavior, for a start, and it is the polar opposite of emotional stability.

After I had changed her emotion, I came up with a solution for her zits. “Make an appointment with your doctor first thing Monday morning. It may be an allergy to something that you wear, something that you ate. Or, it could be hormones. In the meantime, I’ll Google some herbal, homeopathic remedy for you.”

Who was it that said, “Worrying is like trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing gum ?” Baz Luhrmann, I think.

Make time for yourself. Spend quality time on yourself, developing yourself. Look after you. Treat yourself to a nice walk by the lake, got to an expensive seafood restaurant by yourself during lunch, take a walk to the shopping mall, buy that ice-cream you’ve been looking at, treat yourself to a new watch. Enjoy being with just yourself and your thoughts. Learn to say no to people. If anyone calls you up and you’re at work, you would most likely say, “Sorry, I’m at work, I’ll call you back when I finish.”

Why is it that when you’re by yourself, and in your thoughts, and someone calls you and wants something, you’ll do it for them because you’re “Not doing anything ?” You would feel guilty and selfish if you didn’t. Of course, you are doing something. You’re looking after number one, and gathering your thoughts. Like tending a garden. Don’t be a pleaser. Tell them you’re busy, and you’ll call them in your own time. Why people treat their jobs as being more important than their person, their own “selves,” their own “mental peace,” is beyond my comprehension.

Bottom line. Look after yourself, and create your own reality. Become emotionally powerful and unshakeable. Cultivate your inner game regularly, and girls, money, jobs, and friends, will flock to you.

Sasha’s Semi-Ultimate Day Game Opening Guide

Hey kids!

Opening is a strong point of mine, so I though I’d write an article breaking down some of my thoughts and strategies. So welcome to:

“Sasha’s Semi-Ultimate Day Game Opening Guide!”

Everyone is always asking, “What’s the best opener?” I know it’s been said before, but I’ll say it again – it doesn’t really matter. If you have a good vibe and you’re smiling, anything works. It’s really my overall attitude and fun energy that is getting girls interested in talking to me. That being said, a good opener always helps!

Oh – keep in mind that I very much have my own style for opening. Not all openers suit all types of guys. Calibration may be required ߘ Although there are plenty of ways to open – direct, indirect, non-verbally – my preferred method in the day time is direct/funny, or situational/funny, or situational/direct/funny. Hah? Situational/direct/funny? What the hell is that? That’s me!

For example:

“Nice shoes. God damn you’re hot, I almost bumped into that signpost!”

Cute, huh? It’s one of my own. In fact, in parts 2 and 3, I’ll be sharing some of my killer openers that have never been shared outside the LSS (my lair.) So, let’s get started!

Right, opening is important. It’s really important. If you don’t open, you never meet the girl. And I think you’ll find meeting the girl is really of paramount importance when it comes to
well, anything that comes after meeting a girl.

It is my belief that you have to make a tremendous impression in the first 5 seconds of the opening. Otherwise, you’re going to lose the woman’s attention. That’s right – 5 seconds!

Imagine a socially awkward, nervous guy approaching a woman. How long before she recognizes his insecurity and blows him out? Imagine it now for a moment.

“Hey, I uhh
my name
uhhh.”

There. He’s done. To stutter then took about 3 seconds in my head. Maybe 4. By 5 seconds, she’s already turned her back on him.

So – how do you get her attention? By being original. Even before that, by not having bad body language, coming across as needy, or staring at her tits
do get your basics down as they are very important. But after that, the key is
being DIFFERENT!

Now, I thought I might mention a few “typical” things guys say to pick up girls
the few that actually have the audacity to approach women in the day.

Before I share my super fun awesome openers with you guys – let’s take a look at what DOESN’T work! I’ve spoken to a few ladies on the topic and I’ve come up with the few things that women are hearing from the guys out there that DO have the moxy to open during the day. Unfortunately “balls” doesn’t equal “game.” Here are a few examples:

The #1 afc daygame opener is (are you ready for it
?)

“Hey. I’m a banker. Here’s my card, give me a call sometime. (Wink)”

Yep. There you have it folks. No, I’m not kidding.

No, I didn’t just make that up.

Do I really have to break down why this is absolutely horrifically bad? What you are saying is this: “I’m going to try to impress/bribe you with my money. Even though I am more successful than you, I totally fear you because you are beautiful. Hey. I have no idea how to talk to women.”

Next one: “Wow, you’re so pretty. Are you a model?”

Uggggh. WOW! REALLY? Yeah really. Hell, this used to be my opener pre-game. Why? Because I really didn’t know what to say. The woman is soooo hot, I’m blown away. I didn’t know how to deal with it. Most guys still don’t.

This is tantamount to simply saying, “I have no clue how to talk to desirable women!”

Another popular one:

“Hi you’re cute. Can I get your number?

or

“Hi you’re cute. Let’s get a drink sometime”

Going for the number straight away (though it may work on occasion) isn’t exactly tight game. Where’s the comfort? Where’s the attraction? Most numbers attained in this fashion will be flakes. But amazingly, some girls will give their number out and meet up with you in this scenario. Looking like Brad Pitt would help. At least here you’ve let the girl know that you like her, which is something.

Those of course, are the unoriginal openers that involve talking.

Then there’s the whistling/cat calling. Oh yeah. That gets the ladies turned on.

In European countries (yes, mainly I’m talking about Italy here) men will whistle as girls walk by. In the US, it’s more like, “Heyy hot stuff! Looking gooood!” Which is pretty much the same thing. All I can say is this:

I don’t think I’ve ever seen or heard of a women ever, ever, ever turning around after being whistled at by a guy, walking up to them and saying “Say, that’s some nice whistling there. Here, take my number. Maybe we can meet up later and we can see if you can fuck as good as you can whistle?” Yikes. As I was saying

An opener should be original, entertaining, and direct. You want to let the woman know you are interested, but in a fun, non-needy way that diffuses the awkward tension that might be associated with one stranger approaching another in a public area (for sex.) At least, that’s my style.

Right – now that’s I’ve covered what NOT to do, next time I’ll get into what does work, including my recipe list for what makes a great daygame opener! See you then!

The Ten Biggest Mistakes Men Make with Women

Etienne Charland lists the top ten mistakes guys make with women, and Noodleboy seeks advice from experts on opening to overcome his approach anxiety.

Mistake #1: Pursuing Women

Most guys will try all kind of things to get women, such as subtly hanging around a cute girl, walking across the bar to talk to a hot girl, trying to be funny and interesting enough to keep a girl’s attention, trying to get a girl’s phone number, or simply wishing to be with the girl next to them. The problem with all these approaches is that these men are pursuing women. Pursuing women mentally is as bad as pursuing them physically. No matter how you look at it, women are the ones who decide whom they let inside. They look for a man who walks his own path in life, who is centered in his own reality, and who is not thrown off-balance around her. When you pursue a woman, you are being reactive to her. You are not being yourself, and that’s not attractive. Stop trying to get women, but instead let them join you in your life.

Mistake #2: Putting Women On a Pedestal

Most men will look at a hot girl and wish they would be worthy enough to be with such an incredible woman. If you say things like this, you are putting girls on a pedestal. When you do so, you are not being yourself, and that’s not attractive. Some guys will even make funny negative comments to bring women down to their level. That might compensate for putting women on a pedestal, but it doesn’t solve the problem itself. If you view her from a social perspective, there is no way you can compare with her looks and status unless you are a millionaire or a Hollywood star. However, all is not perfect underneath her skin, and she is too often hiding all kinds of issues and insecurities behind her façade. If you relate to her as a human being, you have your authenticity, ease for life, and carefree nature to offer. In fact, you can be at her level before you even say a word by not being thrown off at all by her presence. If you are feeling and behaving exactly the same before, during, and after meeting her, you are relating to her on an equal level, and that’s very attractive. If you can do this, you will succeed. You will stand out because it is hard for her to find a guy who is not being reactive to her.

Mistake #3: Viewing Women as Sexual Objects

With all the sexy skin shown to us everywhere by the media, we have been conditioned like dogs to view women as nothing more than sex objects. Women have also been conditioned to adapt to that image. When a woman walks around showing off her physical assets and wearing a lot of makeup, she has succumbed to the media’s portrayal of women and also views herself as a sex object. When she thinks of herself that way, it’s hard for men not to view her that way too. Most men simply want to have their way with this type of girl, and afterward won’t give her much of a second thought, much less want to see her again. The problem is, all this leads to fantasizing about women sexually and therefore creates a bigger disconnection between men and women. All this is social conditioning: it is not natural and does not lead to sex. Viewing women as purely sexual objects get in the way of connecting with women because you then have an agenda and an attachment to the outcome. You are then trying to get something from her, and that is not attractive to her. Sex is the by-product of connecting with women. You connect with women by shining with your authenticity, integrity, and carefree nature, and by creating a safe space where she is free to like you or not. Once you are really connected to a woman and it feels like the two of you are alone in the world, a sexual relationship will develop on its own, and you won’t have to force it.

Mistake #4: Pushing Interaction

Most guys fail with women because they try too hard to get them. Even trying a little bit is too much. It would be like saying your girlfriend is just a little bit pregnant. Either you are pursuing her, trying to get her, and pushing the interaction, or you aren’t. When you push a conversation verbally or physically, women perceive the neediness behind it, and it repels them. When you are centered in your reality and you communicate with women without expectations or attachments, it leaves space for the connection to happen, and you don’t have to push anything. If you try it and it doesn’t work, it’s usually because you still have subconscious attachments to the outcome.

Mistake #5: Using Pick-Up Techniques

To compensate for a lack of success, many men learn and use pick-up techniques. The biggest problem with these techniques is that they work once in a while, which makes men try even harder to get lucky again. Using tricks to work around your unattractiveness doesn’t really solve your unattractiveness. Even when you get lucky, it rarely leads to a real connection or lasting relationship, because you show a façade that is not really yourself. It’s just a matter of time before she realizes who you really are and she decides whether or not she likes you. What really happens is that if you interact with a woman and you act naturally and are not thrown off by her, then she will decide that she kind of likes you. If you play games, she will most likely see through it and will take one of the following actions: reject you; play games too and make you jump through hoops; or, rarely, decide she still likes you and goes along. If you can differentiate what helps you from what hinders your success, you can keep your confidence and openness and let go of everything that comes from a state of mind of scarcity, such as pick-up techniques. Even if you get lucky once in a while with these techniques, it is way too much work, and you can’t spend your whole life pursuing things.

Mistake #6: Valuing Outward Appearances and Independent Women

Many men consider women with perfect skin and toned, voluptuous bodies to be the best women to pursue a sexual relationship because that’s what we see all the time in magazines. Many men also consider independent career women to be the best-suited mates for long-term relationships. If that’s the case for you, it makes you live with the fantasy of sex instead of really experimenting with it. Women have also been conditioned to adapt to those images by the media. That screws everything up, causing all sorts of problems ranging from breast cancer to a divorce rate in excess of fifty percent, to the presence of more singles than ever in history. The truth is, women who focus too much on their perfect appearance do it to compensate for a lack of self-esteem, and they are disconnected from their authenticity and spontaneity. For that reason, it is hard to feel an emotional connection with them, and sex with them is usually average and mechanical. After engaging in intimate relations with these women, men usually dump them the next day, which lowers their self-esteem even more. As for independent career women, their sexuality is locked down because they are too logical and masculine. Relationships with them are often a power struggle and too often end up in divorce. For physical intimacy to be satisfying and for relationships to be healthy, you need polarity: a very feminine and confident woman who helps you develop as a man. You want authenticity, integrity, a carefree nature, lightness, and spontaneity in a woman to feel one with her. Just shifting the focus of what you value makes a big difference in what you attract into your life: fantasy or reality.

Mistake #7: Trying To Be Someone Else

When you view a man who is very successful with women, you may be tempted to imitate him in order to achieve his success. However, he is not successful because of what he’s doing, but because of who he is and the way he lives his life. You and he have different strengths, weaknesses, and life paths, so your styles will be different. You can’t try to be yourself and try to be someone else at the same time. When you are acting like someone else, you repress a part of yourself and something feels wrong. You don’t want to be your weak self who fails either. There is a powerful and successful self deep inside you, but it is hidden behind fears, excuses, and social conditioning. That’s the self you want to get in touch with. Charisma with women is not a skill to learn; rather, it’s a natural ability you can uncover by unlearning what hides it.

Mistake #8: Viewing Sexually Explicit Videos, Magazines, or Other Material

Another thing too many men do is watch porn instead of having sex. Porn conditions you to live with sex as a fantasy instead of sex as a reality. It also conditions you to view women as sexual objects and to view sex as a “big bang” act. Sex is the by-product of connecting with a woman, and it is a mind-body-soul experience in which you can experience full-body orgasms that sometimes last more than thirty seconds. The sex shown in porn movies is nothing compared to what sex can be. Watching porn also conditions you to the wrong types of women and the wrong kind of so-called physical “intimacy” instead of valuing their authentic feminine nature. When you are not having sex, you are much better keeping your sexual energy and using it to move you forward in other areas of your life. The best thing you can do to bring sex closer to your reality is to stop watching porn.

Mistake #9: Feeling Bad About Failures

Another common mistake is to feel bad when you don’t attract women, when you are single, or when women reject you. You feel bad because you are attached to the outcome, which is the result of having neediness inside you. That neediness is not attractive and does nothing at all to help you. To succeed, you have to let the neediness go. When you walk through the world and you don’t care at all how women respond, that projects a totally different (and very attractive) vibe. When you come back alone from a bar, do you beat yourself up for failing, or are you smiling because you had such a great time? Feeling grateful for what you have and feeling good about what you don’t have yet will shift your reality.

Mistake #10: Saying “This Girl is Special”

Women want you to be the same before, during, and after meeting them. Sometimes you may meet a very attractive and nice woman, think “this girl is special,” and start behaving differently around her without realizing it. You then give her too much attention and change your plans too easily for her. You become responsive to her as the stimulus, and that’s not what she wants. She wants a man who remains the same around her and who doesn’t get too emotionally attached. Even when I could sleep with several women per week, I met a few “special” girls, and although I slept with them, things didn’t work out afterward with any of them. You are the rare catch; don’t start behaving differently around the best women.

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