The Unspoken Secret to Motivation

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So far, you’ve been learning how to feel good and happy from the inside. You feel jacked up and ready to go – but where to? How do you start this journey?

“The journey of a thousand leagues begins with a single step.” – Lao Tzu

All life is duality. That is one thing you must know. With every great love comes great loss. With every great victory comes great defeat. With great joy comes great pain. Life always has a way of teaching you the right lessons you need in the very moment you need them – even if you cannot yet see it.

So understand that when you become able to generate happiness from within, know that it is not permanent and that you will also feel pain. There is, however, a way to keep on your path, in spite of the ups and downs.

The Great Secret to Motivation

I know you’re worried. You’ve felt bitter pain, embarrassment, heartbreak and unparalleled loneliness. You learned how to feel great and now you know that you cannot always feel that way. Do not be afraid. There is a way to maintain peace – even within the chaos. That way is focus. Allow me to explain
I’ve been tested. I tasted depression, I’ve wallowed in self-hatred, I’ve hated my inaction, I’ve regretted my actions.

I’ve been rejected by hundreds of gorgeous women, embarrassed publicly more times than I could count. I’ve had my reputation ruined, rebuilt, ruined and ruined some more. I’ve lost friends. I’ve been betrayed. I’ve been in love and have had my heart broken
And if you asked me if I would do it all again, I would answer unflinchingly: Yes. Let me ask you something very personal, and I want you to truly sit and reflect on this:

How much are you willing to sacrifice to get what you want in life?

If I were to tell you, for a fact, that you can have anything you want – absolutely anything, how high a price would you pay? Would you take the pain? Would you endure criticism, embarrassment, laughter, abandonment, hurt and much, much more?

“The master has failed more times than the student has even tried.”

It’s all about focus. Everything in your life – who you are, who you want to be, the things you say, your successes, your failures, everything – is a result of where you choose to place your attention.

The one trait all great men of history have shared was their remarkable ability to place their attention where they want it to be, instead of on the things they do not want.

What that means is this: after eliminating clutter, there are only 2 things that exist; where you are standing now, and what you want.

I want you to remember for a second the last time you spoke to a woman. Try to remember what happened. You saw her, that’s where your attention went. Then, you wondered if she was single, that’s another place your attention went. You thought about what was the right time to go up there, that’s another place your attention went. Then you thought about the best thing to say, another place your attention went.

As you walked over, you worried about what her friends might think and if it would be better to befriend them first, another place your attention went. When speaking to her, you were worried about what she thought of you, another place your attention went. What’s the score?

That’s 6 places in which your attention is divided.

For the great seducers, there is only one place their attention can be found: on the object of their desire.

The great seducers have no interest in the opinions of others, it’s a waste of energy. They have no interest in men who hover around women, they are flies to be swatted away – a minor annoyance.

No, for these men, God himself would have to come down and stand between them and their desire.

“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

In order to join the ranks of the great seducers, you must learn to direct your focus towards who you are, who you want to be, what you want to achieve, and what you’re willing to do to make that happen. Everything else is a waste of energy. Your fears, your doubts, your insecurities, opinions of others, tactics, lines, tricks – all of it, is just a waste of focus. It truly is the key to character, the key to charisma. When your focus becomes unshakable, nothing will be out of your reach. No feat will be too incredible.

Focus is what builds strength, it is what will keep you afloat when times are tough and things are not going where you want them to. Through a concerted effort and daily repetition, you can turn your focus away from what isn’t going right, and towards what you want. Through daily repetition, you train yourself to focus like a monk, and you will build yourself into an unstoppable titan. Success then becomes a simple matter of reaching out and taking what is already yours.

Presence – the Magic Pill to Finally Get Out of Your Head

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Do not give up because to do so would be to resign yourself to mediocrity, to a fate worse than death.

“Every man dies. Not every man truly lives.”

I want to jump right into presence, because once you unlock what it means, you will feel like Neo when he begins to see the Matrix – all of a sudden the universe just makes sense and women become as clear as day to you. Don’t take my word for it, try it out!

Presence is a deeply spiritual concept, but also a very practical one. Once you start developing your focus through one-pointed attention, the next step will be to understand presence as the next logical step in the evolution of your inner game.

I don’t want to confuse you with a multitude of concepts and explanations. No, the key to understanding presence is to first create the space to accommodate it. Your mind must be emptied – not filled, because presence is a state beyond thought. This might seem scary but it’s the opposite; when present, you act on your instincts, not your mind. When present, you live courageously, because fear cannot exist. Life becomes an incredible adventure.

Presence can be understood as such: it is like a playing a song. You don’t play it to eagerly get to the end
you play because it is the playing of the song that is fulfilling in and of itself.

That is essentially what presence is. When you learn to focus your attention only on what you want, the next step is to trust your instinct – to fall into a state of presence and enjoy doing what you are doing for the simple reason that it is more enjoyable than not.

That’s the secret of the great seducers; they speak to women because it is a hell of a lot more enjoyable than not speaking to them. That’s where it gets to be quite personal.

Most men do not love women

Wait – what?

Yes, it’s true. How many times have you witnessed your friends quiet down when the beautiful waitress walks over? How many times have you been caught looking at a woman who delights you and quickly look away in shame? No. Most men do not truly love women. If they did, it would show on their face.

Being present is not logical, it is a feeling. That is where your focus should be. There is no desire to conquer, nor a desire to retreat, only a sense of peace and comfort, like if the place your feet were planted in was home. All that talk of feeling one with the universe – it’s just another way to describe presence.

Speaking of feet, it’s an excellent place to start.

Whenever you see a beautiful woman, a flurry of emotion and energy is released, usually from the pit of your belly, just above your genitals, and shoots through your body.

But then, something terrible happens.

Within about 3 seconds, that emotion that was consuming your entire body gets overwhelmed by your thoughts, that come in and begin projecting in the future; “She’s busy!”, “Everyone will laugh at you!” “there’s no way she would be into someone like you”. And just like that, now you are afraid.

Your thoughts begin to get stronger, and you start to remember all the times you’ve been hurt in the past, all the times you’ve been ashamed and embarrassed and felt alone. Maybe it’s best not to put yourself on the line like that anymore. And just like that, now you are anxious.

So where does this relate to presence? Well, fear exists in the future, and anxiety has it’s roots in the past, none of which exist in the present. So what can you do to force yourself into presence? Focus on your feet.

That’s it! That’s all you really need to do. When you begin to feel that flurry of emotions released in your body, don’t think! Don’t categorize it as fear or anxiety. Don’t give your mind time to analyze and talk you out of it. Instead, just turn your attention to your feet and begin to walk. Don’t think of what you need to say or do – you are one of the great seducers of the world, all of that will come to you in due time. Just focus on your feet; one step, next step, next step
And before you know it, you are deep in conversation with an incredibly stunning woman, soaking up her divine feminine energy and just basking in the refreshing feeling of being surrounded with beauty.

When you learn to become present, confidence is an afterthought. There is nothing to fear, and everything to gain. Through presence, you learn to trust yourself.

Limp Libido Syndrome?

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Are you suffering from the ‘limp libido syndrome’?

Oh yeah, that is a terrible syndrome to suffer from. The scientists have studied this phenomenon and found that there are more and more men suffering from it [1]. And don’t think that this is only an old guy thing – this can also affect guys in their 20’s too.

All the symptoms are terrible. They can range from muscle loss, fat gain, depression and fatigue through to the dreaded limp erection, decreased libido and the totally gruesome man boobs.

This is what happens when a guy has low testosterone which is caused by the seven sneaky ‘virility vampires’ lurking in the environment and in the food and beverages that we eat and drink everyday. Discovering what these ‘virility vampires’ are is very interesting and if you are curious, you can get more details here

The fact that the number of men affected by this problem is growing explains why the general awareness about it is increasing and why you see all these Erection Helper and Testosterone boost products proliferating on the Internet. While much of the information contained in these guides is excellent, the ones that I have personally tried have a major flaw which I’ll expose below..

Perhaps you are wondering why this is of any concern to you if don’t currently have any symptoms of the ‘limp libido syndrome.’ There is a sociologist that did a study researching the attraction level of women as it relates to mating with men having different testosterone levels [2]. Guess what the result was? Unsurprisingly, women get aroused just by being around men with high T levels vs feeling next to nothing around men who have average to low levels of testosterone.

What we can learn from that research is that if you are getting pretty good at overcoming approach anxiety, and you can stay in set for a good amount of time, build rapport, comfort, tease, make the girls laugh, display social value and so on but somehow, you seem to always fail to escalate, get sexual or close the girls then you might consider optimizing your T levels as this may be the edge that is missing to reach the success with women that you are seeking.

I think that I met Cliff for the first time about 15 years ago. Back then, I was 25 years old when I joined the Montreal Lair that he was involved in organizing. I met some great guys, learned a lot and eventually become decent at attracting women. Then I settled down, had 2 kids but then last year broke up and became single again.

Let me tell you something, getting back in the game after a break of 15 years is really tough. I possibly had the longest dry spell of my whole life right there. I was starting to go insane. I could have climbed up walls because of blue balls. With some perseverance, I started to regain the skills that I had lost with the years but I was going nowhere. I was suffering from the freaking ‘limp libido syndrome’ that I described above.

This is when I decided to purchase few of these natural T boost products. While most are very instructive, the most important part is the section which they tell you what foods to avoid and which ones you want to eat because they improve your T production. Let me tell you how useful, it has been for me and I suspect that I am not the only one who has had this experience.

While I have a lot of passions and skills, cooking is not one of them

I learned that eating avocado, spinach and white mushrooms were good to increase T so I went to the grocery store to buy all these vegetables. End result though was that I threw the majority of it in the garbage 2 weeks later.

You know what the main problem is with all these guides? They tell you the objective without giving you the means to do it. I’m not a fucking sheep or a cow just eating grass to feed myself!

This is why I created Juicing For Your Manhood: 17 delicious juicing recipes to increase your testosterone.

I stumbled by pure luck onto a juice blender and this is when a lightening bolt suddenly jolted my brain. I started to design a juice recipe specifically to increase T levels and to eliminate the 7 ‘virility vampires’ that cause the ‘limp libido syndrome.’

By juicing instead of just eating raw vegetables and fruit, I invented the most delicious, fast, easy, fun and exciting way to consume all the foods required to produce a good amount of testosterone. With these recipes, I had never before eaten so much fruit and vegetable in one day. It doesn’t take a specialized blender, expensive herbs imported from exotic locations or a lot of time or skills.

Did it work? I can’t tell you that as soon as I finished drinking my first juice that women started to flock around me but it did have a positive snowball effect on my life. Firstly I regained energy that I didn’t believe I could have again. I started doing Cross-fit 5 times a week, lost 30 pounds of fat in the first 3 months and felt great. And women started to notice. I remember when I finally broke my dry spell, it was with a 21 year old girl. Boy I had really forgotten how tight they are at that age. She was tight around my middle finger – just imagine how it felt when I inserted something bigger there

Bottom line is that when I look back, that fling was a major milestone in my reclaiming my manhood. Now when I go out to clubs, I’m able to keep up and even beat much younger dudes in the mating game and I have been able to have sex for several hours with girls their 20’s. Something that I didn’t even suspect to still be possible at my age. The funny thing is now that I know it is possible, it became a part of my reality and is my new normal!

I now live in total abundance where I’ve lost track of the number of women that I have slept with in the last couple of months. I have much more choice than I could handle since I started juicing. This has had a nice side effect where women are chasing me. I limit the number of women I see weekly to 2, maximum 3. Only because it is a personal choice since as I choose to use my energy to help others. This is the path that I have chosen.

If you want to learn more about what I’m doing and are interested in saying Fuck You to the ‘limp libido syndrome,’ simply click here and I’ll tell you how.

[1] Travison TG, et al. A population-level decline in serum testosterone levels in American men, The Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and metabolism. Jan;92(1):196-202, 2007

[2] Slatcher, RB. Mehta PH. et al. Testosterone and Self-Reported Dominance Interact to Influence Human Mating Behavior. Social Psychological and Personality Science. 2011

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