I got an email from a reader the other day. He wrote:

“Lately, I have become too concerned about approaching women, especially when I think about approaching one on the street or in the mall. I feel like because I am not good with women and people in general, that women will always think of me as a freak or loser or an embarrassment, no matter what my approach is. Even some people I know think that I should stop cold approaching because they think that it’s fucking weird. What do I do?”

I’m terribly sorry to hear that you feel this way.

“This weakness in a time of crisis is mean and unworthy of you. How have you fallen so far from the path to liberation?” – Bhagavad gita

Let’s talk about sex baby!

First, understand that you liking women is NORMAL.

That’s what most people who get into this tend to forget… Most healthy normal adults date. Most healthy normal adults fuck. In addition, a man takes what he wants, and he fucks. You hear me? He does not “make love,” he FUCKS.

A woman needs to feel that off you. She needs to look at you and know that if she ends up alone with you, she is going to get fucked. She is going to have her hair pulled, she is going to have her ass smacked hard and she is going to leave with bite marks all over her.

You cannot tell her this (well, you can, but bear with me here), it is something she needs to feel. That’s the problem with most guys here, and why they do not get laid. They are so logical – do this, step 3, say this at this moment and boom! Her legs will part.

It’s all nonsense

It’s all about how you make her feel. Everything else is irrelevant. So how do you make her feel this way about you? By first feeling it.

You need to come to terms with your desires. It can happen in two ways. You can think hard about it now after reading this, and logically come to this conclusion. Or, and this is the best way to go about it, reach your patience threshold and really just ‘give up’ so to speak. You will reach a point where you are tested so hard that you just shrug your shoulders and say “fuck this. Fuck what people think, fuck what she thinks. I am a man and I want her, I’m not going to hide it anymore. I’m going to say exactly what I think from now on” and, in that moment, your success will skyrocket. But the key is that you have to feel it.

They are rooting for you!

One of my girl’s told me a super interesting thing the other day. She said that if her bra and panties match, you are not the one who decided you are having sex tonight.

It got me thinking… You see, what most men forget is that at the end of the day, no matter what happens, she chooses. She ALWAYS chooses. That is GOOD news. It means that if you are man enough – if you make her feel the way she wants to feel, she will choose you. It will be effortless and beautiful. It won’t feel like you’re climbing up a steep muddy hill. It will feel light, fun and exciting.

Want the best news of all? She’s ROOTING FOR YOU DUDE!

Women don’t sit around thinking ‘hmmm, which guy can I blow out today?’ Instead they are actually thinking “please please please don’t let this one be a loser. PLEASE be cool!!” They are SO tired of the same idiots over and over and over. They WANT to be seduced, they want to be wowed, they want to be taken on an adventure.

So take it easy mate, have fun, and get out there.

How else will you meet the girl of your dreams?


Patrick Ananda
Patrick Ananda

Patrick is a scoundrel, rogue, vagabond and founder of the Centered Man Project. He teaches men how to overcome their social anxiety and fear of rejection, by unleashing their unshakable self-confidence.

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