We have a special article today from Big Mike, who is an ex-pornstar and the author of Secrets To Lasting Longer – the #1 guide to learning how to last longer in bed and cure premature ejaculation naturally. You can find out more about him at his site SecretsToLastingLonger.com
Big Mike: I get it.
You want to build your confidence levels in bed, but you’re not sure where to start.
You might know a trick or two that you frequently use in bed, but you’re not sure if you can give women those wild, earth-shattering orgasms they crave more than anything.
But what if things were different?
What if you were always supremely confident in bed with a woman?
What if you were a complete stud in between the sheets, never at loss for a thing to do or a technique to try?
What if women were begging you to have sex with them, and you’d get to pick and choose the hottest ones?
Wouldn’t that feel great?
It would? Great.
So how can you go from a clueless guy to Fabio the Stallion?
It’s actually pretty simple.
Just follow these three steps.
Step #1: Master The Art Of Foreplay
Many guys completely skip this part and their sex life suffers for it.
The truth is that women, unlike us guys, need more time to get aroused. While men are ready to go in seconds, women need around 15 minutes on average to get properly wet and aroused.
With that in mind, it’s of key importance to prolong the foreplay. There are countless techniques you can use to do this. Fingering her is a good option. Talking dirty while kissing and being all hot and heavy is another excellent choice.
The point is, you must learn how to arouse a girl properly. Take your time and learn to enjoy foreplay.
Step #2: Last Longer In Bed
Ok, so she’s now burning with desire and wants to have sex with you immediately. Good job!
But, now you have to watch out for another common mistake.
Most guys last between 5-10 minutes in bed before they are done. (and that’s not counting the approximately 10% of men who suffer from premature ejaculation and finish before even that)
If you’ve learned anything from the foreplay part, it’s that women like to take their time in bed. If you frequently come after only a few minutes and she doesn’t, she’s eventually going to resent you.
Also, stay away from any pills, creams, and pumps that are promoted by sleazy marketers. They are ineffective at best and potentially dangerous at worst.
You can learn how to last longer in bed naturally, using only your hands and your body.
To start off, I suggest you look into edging and male Kegels. Just those two exercises will be enough to get you started with.
Step #3: Learn How To Give Her An Orgasm
Now you’re ready for the grand finale.
Learning how to give a woman an orgasm is one of the most valuable skills you can have in your bedroom arsenal. Few guys know how to do it right, and just by deciding you’re going to dedicate some time to learn this skill you’re now already way ahead of the competition.
Firstly, learn her body. As cliché as this is, every woman is different and they are turned on by different things. While there are a few universal orgasm rules you should know and follow, be sure to listen to her feedback and adjust accordingly.
Secondly, experiment. Sometimes even the girl won’t know what turns her on (this is especially true if she had lousy lovers in the past). Experiment with different positions, fingering techniques, thrusting speed, etc.
Lastly, don’t give up. It may take 15…20…even 30 minutes for her to reach an orgasm. Most guys give up way before that. But, because you learned how to last longer in bed, you’ll be able to last long enough to give her the orgasm she craves.
After you’ve done that a couple of times, she’ll start to lust over you and want to be with you forever. Trust me, these skills are like a powerful drug – they cause an addiction to develop in her brain.
P.S. While we’re talking about female orgasms, did you know that there are 11 types of them? Now, obviously, don’t memorize them all at once, but do try to get her to experience at least one of them every time you guys are having sex.
Clifford: If you have some interesting ideas or twists on how to please a woman, this is the place to share your wisdom and experience. I hope to hear some fresh, original approaches from some of you soon.