Secret To Making Your Ex Return Your Call

Are there “magic” words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.

Cool huh?

I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from guys that are trying to put their relationships back together.

So I am going to answer…”How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”



If you use this technique alone, without an overall plan or strategy…you may damage your relationship more than if your ex never returned your call.

What NOT to Say!

Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what messages almost NEVER work.

And worse…

Put you in an AWFUL psychological position.

These usually fall into 2 categories.


“John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”


“Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?

So, I won’t go on and on…

How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage

Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are curiosity & self interest

And here’s the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work “magic”


Let’s look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

“Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do? What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.


Before you call, you need to do the “Set Up,” which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing, but needs to be plausible.

But more importantly…


Please have an underlying strategy BEFORE you call.

If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back, you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.


What I am saying is…

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!


I have been fortunate enough to have been able to present a lot of great material in the cliff’s list newsletters and now on the website that have made a significant difference in many guy’s lives.

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