So as many of you might already know, I became big on this whole ‘writing your story’ thing.

What is your story?

So you’ve met a beautiful girl and you two hit it off. You’re super excited to meet her for a date in a few days.

You’ve canceled your other plans, bought a nice new shirt, got a haircut – but what’s this? You get a text from her that says “I’m soooo sorry I can’t make it tonight. I have to help my mom with something! let’s catch up next week? xoxo” And then your heart sinks and you repeat the same mantra you always tell yourself… “Of course this would happen to me… As usual.”

Your wish is my command

We all have a story we keep telling ourselves. It’s basically a collection of our memories that shaped the way we see the world and the way we expect to be treated by it. In other words, your past keeps affecting your future – because you constantly bring it back to life in your mind.

Let it f***ing die! Just let it go. It’s a story you keep repeating to yourself. It has no objective reality. Let the past be the past. The moment you realize that is the beginning of your freedom. The moment you realize just how arbitrary your story is is the moment you learn to take control of it.

That’s what happened to me. I sat down and realized that everything I think I am is just a story I keep telling myself. So why not take control of that story?

How to write your story

Take out a blank piece of paper and a pen. Or open a Word document.

Begin with: “I am so happy and grateful now that” and then write down a day in your life in the exact way you want it to be, right here and now.

You see, here and now is all you ever have. Even 10 years from now, when you wake up in the morning, you will still be here and now. If you aren’t happy now, when will you be? If you aren’t attractive now, when will you be? If you aren’t living in abundance now, when will you be? Now is all you have, and the way your life looks today is the way it will be in the future.

So write down everything in detail in the present moment. Start with your vibe – how are you feeling? Relaxed, happy and at ease? Or anxious and uptight? It’s up to you.

When you leave your house, what happens? Are you deeply attractive to women? Do they all stare at you as you walk down the street? When you speak to a beautiful woman, does she smile eagerly, open up easily, and ask for your phone number? Does she call you? Is she excited for your date? Actually, how many women do you date per week? Do you have an awesome girlfriend?

What about your financial life? How successful are you? What does your business look like? How ‘full’ is your bank account?

Really go into detail – this is your life you are creating – here and now!

The three rules are as follows: Be as creative and outlandish as possible – there is no such thing as impossible. The second rule is; write it down in the here and now. The third is; always write in the positive, never the negative. In other words; “I no longer feel stressed/depressed” should instead be; “I feel relaxed/deeply at peace.” See?

Why this works

I highly recommend the book “Prometheus Rising.” In any case, the author explains how your mind has two components; A thinker and a prover. Your thinking mind will think up theories, while your prover will work those theories into a mental model – a reality tunnel you will inhabit. You know how people with victim mentalities always seem to attract crappy experiences? That’s because their thinker has decided they are victims, and the prover sets out to make it their reality. They unwittingly sabotage their own relationships and then exclaim “You see! Just like all the others. I can never be happy…” All they have to do is change their story!

It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy really. If in your story, you are relaxed and attractive, and all women are eager to meet you, how anxious will you be to walk over to that cutie sitting on the bench? And due to your confidence, chances are she will be VERY receptive and VERY attractive.

The point is to live it here and now. Saying you will some day be ready, or some day be happy is just a way for your ego to sustain itself. All you ever have is the here and now, so take control of that here and now by changing your story.

I usually read my story once in the morning after meditation and once in the evening before going out/going to sleep in order to reinforce that it is my current reality here and now.

Go from victim to winner. Zero to hero. Scarcity to unlimited abundance!

Life is truly beautiful – here and now. When else can it be?


Patrick Ananda
Patrick Ananda

Patrick is a scoundrel, rogue, vagabond and founder of the Centered Man Project. He teaches men how to overcome their social anxiety and fear of rejection, by unleashing their unshakable self-confidence.

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