Don’t you hate those guys who always have something interesting and witty to say to girls and who never seem to be at a loss for words ?
What could they be talking about so effortlessly, anyway ? For the love of God, they just met !
I used to get really pissed off when I saw other guys getting that fast attraction and connection that I wanted to create with women.
To be honest, it bugged the shit out of me.
As you know, there are several steps to creating attraction with women. You have to know how to spike her energy and get her curious about you as a man. You have to know how to banter with her and tease her.
And one of the most important steps that you have to know how to do is create trust and rapport.
This is the feeling she has that you two are “meant” for each other, or that you share a special connection.
I’m going to give you one of my gold nugget tips for talking to a woman, which will have her feeling like you’re her soulmate and eating out of your hand within two minutes … if you use it the way I’m about to show you …
This is called the “Buckshot Method.”
First, I have to admit, this may seem like a “sneaky trick.” In reality, it’s just an accelerant to get real with a woman much faster. You’re not really tricking her at all, you’re just demonstrating a cool insight that gets her to open up.
Here are the 3 steps to the “Buckshot Method …”
Step One: Insightful Look
At the right point in the conversation, you’ll look at the woman you’re talking with like you just noticed something new about her. It’s a look of light surprise. Your eyes widen and you smile.
Then start nodding as if you figured out that you did see something. Like you’re saying, “A-ha ! Yes …”
Step Two: Make a “Buckshot” Statement
A “Buckshot” statement is one that could apply to just about anybody, but will give her the impression that you know something about her. Something that not just anyone would have picked up on.
For example, here’s one that I use (nod your head slowly while you’re saying it):
“You’re on the verge of making a big decision in your life, aren’t you ?”
Most people, at any given time, are chewing on a big decision, or at least one that seems big to them. And she’ll likely be pretty impressed that you knew that about her.
It’s extremely rare for someone to say, “Nope ! Nothing going on in my life !” We all want to think we’re making big decisions, even if it’s about which toothpaste to switch to.
Step Three: Dramatic Pause and Slam-Dunk
After you’ve made the statement, let her soak in it for a second.
Chances are, she will then volunteer more information for you to go with. She’ll say something like:
“Oh my God ! Yeah, I’ve been thinking about my job and how I’m really not cut out for sales, and my boss chewed me out this week and … how did you know ?”
You then seal it with this:
Smile and nod at her. Then say: “I thought so. You had that energy about you. I could feel it.”
After you use this technique, I can guarantee you that she will be much more open and responsive.
Plus, you’re framing yourself as a guy who can read a woman’s “energy.”
Whatever the hell that really is. It just means that she will see you as a person with insight and intuition about other people. Which then translates into a gift that women prize.
Again, this really isn’t a “trick,” even if it seems like one. All you’re doing is exercising your awareness of human nature, and you’re using it to help her realize what a hip and insightful guy you are.
Oh, and don’t be surprised when your “cold reads” start being more and more accurate. The best thing I ever did to kick my ability to read people into high gear was start by just buckshotting everyone I met. I had a few misses and a few hits, but all in all, I got better at reading people faster. I think it’s because nobody wants to feel like a carnival act. We want to genuinely see what makes people tick.
This is just one of the many steps you need to use to create a powerful sense of attraction in the woman you’re talking to. Knowing what to say, when to say it, and what not to say is all part of the blueprint of conversation with women.