Opening is a strong point of mine, so I though I’d write an article breaking down some of my thoughts and strategies. So welcome to:
“Sasha’s Semi-Ultimate Day Game Opening Guide!”
Everyone is always asking, “What’s the best opener?” I know it’s been said before, but I’ll say it again – it doesn’t really matter. If you have a good vibe and you’re smiling, anything works. It’s really my overall attitude and fun energy that is getting girls interested in talking to me. That being said, a good opener always helps!
Oh – keep in mind that I very much have my own style for opening. Not all openers suit all types of guys. Calibration may be required ߘ Although there are plenty of ways to open – direct, indirect, non-verbally – my preferred method in the day time is direct/funny, or situational/funny, or situational/direct/funny. Hah? Situational/direct/funny? What the hell is that? That’s me!
“Nice shoes. God damn you’re hot, I almost bumped into that signpost!”
Cute, huh? It’s one of my own. In fact, in parts 2 and 3, I’ll be sharing some of my killer openers that have never been shared outside the LSS (my lair.) So, let’s get started!
Right, opening is important. It’s really important. If you don’t open, you never meet the girl. And I think you’ll find meeting the girl is really of paramount importance when it comes to
well, anything that comes after meeting a girl.
It is my belief that you have to make a tremendous impression in the first 5 seconds of the opening. Otherwise, you’re going to lose the woman’s attention. That’s right – 5 seconds!
Imagine a socially awkward, nervous guy approaching a woman. How long before she recognizes his insecurity and blows him out? Imagine it now for a moment.
“Hey, I uhh
There. He’s done. To stutter then took about 3 seconds in my head. Maybe 4. By 5 seconds, she’s already turned her back on him.
So – how do you get her attention? By being original. Even before that, by not having bad body language, coming across as needy, or staring at her tits
do get your basics down as they are very important. But after that, the key is
Now, I thought I might mention a few “typical” things guys say to pick up girls
the few that actually have the audacity to approach women in the day.
Before I share my super fun awesome openers with you guys – let’s take a look at what DOESN’T work! I’ve spoken to a few ladies on the topic and I’ve come up with the few things that women are hearing from the guys out there that DO have the moxy to open during the day. Unfortunately “balls” doesn’t equal “game.” Here are a few examples:
The #1 afc daygame opener is (are you ready for it
“Hey. I’m a banker. Here’s my card, give me a call sometime. (Wink)”
Yep. There you have it folks. No, I’m not kidding.
No, I didn’t just make that up.
Do I really have to break down why this is absolutely horrifically bad? What you are saying is this: “I’m going to try to impress/bribe you with my money. Even though I am more successful than you, I totally fear you because you are beautiful. Hey. I have no idea how to talk to women.”
Next one: “Wow, you’re so pretty. Are you a model?”
Uggggh. WOW! REALLY? Yeah really. Hell, this used to be my opener pre-game. Why? Because I really didn’t know what to say. The woman is soooo hot, I’m blown away. I didn’t know how to deal with it. Most guys still don’t.
This is tantamount to simply saying, “I have no clue how to talk to desirable women!”
Another popular one:
“Hi you’re cute. Can I get your number?
“Hi you’re cute. Let’s get a drink sometime”
Going for the number straight away (though it may work on occasion) isn’t exactly tight game. Where’s the comfort? Where’s the attraction? Most numbers attained in this fashion will be flakes. But amazingly, some girls will give their number out and meet up with you in this scenario. Looking like Brad Pitt would help. At least here you’ve let the girl know that you like her, which is something.
Those of course, are the unoriginal openers that involve talking.
Then there’s the whistling/cat calling. Oh yeah. That gets the ladies turned on.
In European countries (yes, mainly I’m talking about Italy here) men will whistle as girls walk by. In the US, it’s more like, “Heyy hot stuff! Looking gooood!” Which is pretty much the same thing. All I can say is this:
I don’t think I’ve ever seen or heard of a women ever, ever, ever turning around after being whistled at by a guy, walking up to them and saying “Say, that’s some nice whistling there. Here, take my number. Maybe we can meet up later and we can see if you can fuck as good as you can whistle?” Yikes. As I was saying
An opener should be original, entertaining, and direct. You want to let the woman know you are interested, but in a fun, non-needy way that diffuses the awkward tension that might be associated with one stranger approaching another in a public area (for sex.) At least, that’s my style.
Right – now that’s I’ve covered what NOT to do, next time I’ll get into what does work, including my recipe list for what makes a great daygame opener! See you then!