So far, you’ve been learning how to feel good and happy from the inside. You feel jacked up and ready to go – but where to? How do you start this journey?
“The journey of a thousand leagues begins with a single step.” – Lao Tzu
All life is duality. That is one thing you must know. With every great love comes great loss. With every great victory comes great defeat. With great joy comes great pain. Life always has a way of teaching you the right lessons you need in the very moment you need them – even if you cannot yet see it.
So understand that when you become able to generate happiness from within, know that it is not permanent and that you will also feel pain. There is, however, a way to keep on your path, in spite of the ups and downs.
The Great Secret to Motivation
I know you’re worried. You’ve felt bitter pain, embarrassment, heartbreak and unparalleled loneliness. You learned how to feel great and now you know that you cannot always feel that way. Do not be afraid. There is a way to maintain peace – even within the chaos. That way is focus. Allow me to explain
I’ve been tested. I tasted depression, I’ve wallowed in self-hatred, I’ve hated my inaction, I’ve regretted my actions.
I’ve been rejected by hundreds of gorgeous women, embarrassed publicly more times than I could count. I’ve had my reputation ruined, rebuilt, ruined and ruined some more. I’ve lost friends. I’ve been betrayed. I’ve been in love and have had my heart broken
And if you asked me if I would do it all again, I would answer unflinchingly: Yes. Let me ask you something very personal, and I want you to truly sit and reflect on this:
How much are you willing to sacrifice to get what you want in life?
If I were to tell you, for a fact, that you can have anything you want – absolutely anything, how high a price would you pay? Would you take the pain? Would you endure criticism, embarrassment, laughter, abandonment, hurt and much, much more?
“The master has failed more times than the student has even tried.”
It’s all about focus. Everything in your life – who you are, who you want to be, the things you say, your successes, your failures, everything – is a result of where you choose to place your attention.
The one trait all great men of history have shared was their remarkable ability to place their attention where they want it to be, instead of on the things they do not want.
What that means is this: after eliminating clutter, there are only 2 things that exist; where you are standing now, and what you want.
I want you to remember for a second the last time you spoke to a woman. Try to remember what happened. You saw her, that’s where your attention went. Then, you wondered if she was single, that’s another place your attention went. You thought about what was the right time to go up there, that’s another place your attention went. Then you thought about the best thing to say, another place your attention went.
As you walked over, you worried about what her friends might think and if it would be better to befriend them first, another place your attention went. When speaking to her, you were worried about what she thought of you, another place your attention went. What’s the score?
That’s 6 places in which your attention is divided.
For the great seducers, there is only one place their attention can be found: on the object of their desire.
The great seducers have no interest in the opinions of others, it’s a waste of energy. They have no interest in men who hover around women, they are flies to be swatted away – a minor annoyance.
No, for these men, God himself would have to come down and stand between them and their desire.
“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
In order to join the ranks of the great seducers, you must learn to direct your focus towards who you are, who you want to be, what you want to achieve, and what you’re willing to do to make that happen. Everything else is a waste of energy. Your fears, your doubts, your insecurities, opinions of others, tactics, lines, tricks – all of it, is just a waste of focus. It truly is the key to character, the key to charisma. When your focus becomes unshakable, nothing will be out of your reach. No feat will be too incredible.
Focus is what builds strength, it is what will keep you afloat when times are tough and things are not going where you want them to. Through a concerted effort and daily repetition, you can turn your focus away from what isn’t going right, and towards what you want. Through daily repetition, you train yourself to focus like a monk, and you will build yourself into an unstoppable titan. Success then becomes a simple matter of reaching out and taking what is already yours.