When I was traveling in Budapest, I had a discussion with my friend. We were talking about dating and he said that you should always pay on a first date. He went even further and stated that I as a man should pay all the time. Not only on a first date, but for the entire relationship. I should always pay for everything because I am a man and she is a woman. That’s an interesting debate.
My opinion at that time was you should always split the bill. Always, no questions asked. Period. Do I still share the same view? Well, yes and no. It depends. Sometimes I split the bill and sometimes I pay for everything, but when I pay for everything I expect the girl to pay the next time. I always try to pay 50%, either by splitting the bill or letting her pay the next time.
How to split the bill without looking cheap
Money should never be an issue, but never go on expensive dates. If you’re not rich then it could be an issue. That’s why I advocate for cheap dates. Even on cheap dates I always split the bill. So how do you do that on cheap dates without looking cheap? Being casual is key. Here’s my tactic:
My first date is usually to grab a drink. It’s very casual, cheap, low investment, less flakey and she should know it’s supposed to be a date. Here’s how I split the bill:
You both order a drink and the waitress comes with the bill and you tell your date, “I’ll pay for this round.” Or “This round is on me.” Or “First round is on me.” You get the picture. Act very casual like it’s the most normal thing in the world. Now she knows she has to pay for the second round or the next time you two go out. This is also an excellent way to filter out gold diggers. You will also show non-neediness and she invests her money in you. If she likes you then she’ll happily pay for you too. This simple trick is golden. It’s what I do all the time.
Sometimes I do pay everything or cook for her, but I only do that if I genuinely want to. Not because I want something from her. I also reward good behavior. If the sex was incredible then I’ll be more likely to surprise her.