In today’s society, we are old models, in a new world, forcefully adapting according to society’s imprints on our minds and bodies. As men and women, we are slowly being guided away from our resonating roles in life. I am speaking about the element of attraction, from masculine to feminine, and to do this, it helps to understand the root of both.
Male and female energy are very different in reality. They are opposites, perfectly complimenting each other, when at their purest forms.
Masculine energy, at its core, is that of nothingness, emptiness, the observer of life and emotion, always present, always letting go. The masculine energy is strong and grounded, with a clear defining purpose, which carries him through life possessing an unwavering self assurance.
The female energy is that of motion, emotion, love, and compassion, which at the purest form is devastatingly seductive to the man.
The masculine has an unattached void within. The female energy compliments this, and fills the masculine with love and guidance towards one’s purpose. Perfectly supporting one another.
In today’s world, for whatever reason, roles have begun to intertwine and shift from one to another. We see men confused, and not really understanding what it is to be a man. Instead we are paraded with social media on being a man, aka ‘Hugh Grant Syndrome,’ which advertises the attractiveness of a bumbling, weak, nice guy, begging for the affection of his chosen partner. Romantic comedies fly this flag high. True, healthy and purposeful Masculinity is being strangled.
Masculine energy is very much being forced to retreat and men are becoming more feminine in nature, but not how one may expect.
Today’s “alpha male” archetype is the material craving, woman degrading little boys who are all too prevalent in society. These over-reactive and in many cases muscle bound frat boy stereotypes are sitting upon a foundation of insecurity and confusion of what it truly means to be an evolved gentleman.
This behaviour is hazardous to the man, but also heavily affects what women resonate with, and how both sexes bring out the best of one another. Which role do you fill? The “Insecure Alpha” or the opposing “Directionless nice guy”? Unfortunately, neither is good, and neither is pure.
Enter the Renaissance man.
The Renaissance man is simply a term I use to describe the evolved gentleman. The Renaissance man offers women the freedom to break out of the mundane and frivolous confines of reality, and in turn she offers him the chance to be consumed by her feminine emotion and light.
He approaches with gusto, and a knowing self assurance that simply states, “I am a man. You are a woman. I want you”.
The Renaissance man embraces his masculine energy, and is 100% authentic in his intention. He does not hide his male desire, he does not fear it, he does not worry about offending the female or society, nor does he approach looking for a specific outcome. He is expressing a deep love for the feminine, unapologetically.
He is unapologetically himself.
The evolved gentleman is surrounded in this world by men who are unwilling to reach their core. Hiding from themselves and manipulating women; the “nice guys” of society.
I have to be clear when using the term “nice guy”, I am referring to the ‘friend-zone’ type of male, who believes that by putting his purpose in life to one side, by giving the female everything he can, spoiling her with gifts, jumping to her every command, pretending to be her best platonic friend, and constant provider of affection, that this will sure enough guarantee entry to her swim suit area or her heart.
This is one million percent wrong, which he will find out 2 years later as he is sitting on the couch watching the notebook with her. He picks the perfect moment, which he has dreamt about for years, and goes to kiss her. This results in shock, feelings of betrayal, never being able to trust him again, and they quickly drift apart forever.
Men blame women for this, when really, it is the man’s fault every time. He failed to show up and accept his responsibility as a man.
This is not coming from a place of love, respect and mutual recognition, but instead from a place of self loathing, showing needy and manipulative behaviour.
If a man loses his purpose to give it all to a woman, attraction, and respect will be lost, as the man does not even have it for himself. A man’s relationship to his own emotions is a direct reflection to how he relates to her.
Do not for one second think that you can hide who you really are from a woman. She is beautifully present and intuition is at a much higher frequency in the female. Your issues, insecurities, and fears will be blatantly obvious to her. That is a good enough reason to stop hiding, lying and manipulating.
Women will test men on a daily, hourly, second by second basis, to see if he is who he claims to be, a real man. They have no other choice, it is a must. This can involve “criticisms,” and objective comments attempting to throw the man off balance and play with his ego. If the man fails by reacting, or losing his sense of grounding, it is downhill from that point.
It’s a sign of amazing strength in a man to be emotionally open and vulnerable with a woman. Your self-acceptance and honesty will spark attraction in itself.
Be unapologetically honest about who you are and what you want in all aspects of life. You are already an impressive man, therefore, you need not try to act like one.
She is not attracted to the man, but is attracted to the emotional states of which the man provides and infuses while in her presence.
In order to generate attraction, he needs to be well equipped at changing her mood not her mind. The man needs to generate every possible emotion in the female, all whilst she feels secure and safe but in a natural state of suspense. This is where the ‘nice guy’ fails miserably, delivering predictable and overtly comfortable emotions on a consistent basis.
If I could give one piece of advice in this case is, when with a woman, BE PRESENT!
By not being present you stifle her raw ability to take you places you have never experienced. If you are not present with a woman, in the moment, spontaneity cannot flow. The fun, attraction, and deep connection will not be made.
Stop trying to be cool.
Cool does not exist.
‘You’ exist, and ‘now’ exists.