Author:   obsessionsystems
You ever see a guy play the role of a woman’s hero? It works really well, yet, if you do it wrong, you will be placed in the friend zone with women for the rest of your life with absolutely zero chance of sleeping with her, whatsoever. 
Suppose you have an 18 year old girl that loves sex, yet, because she is afraid of the world and what people are going to say talks really badly about other girls who love sex. What a situation. It is almost as if this girl hates herself. FURTHERMORE, if you participate in the act of “slut shaming” other girls along with her, what will happen is when she is in the mood to let her slut side show and give head to someone, she will share that with the guy who can stand up for her slut side, even if it nowhere to be seen. 
I had a model that I was working with. She, while angry and in the heat of the moment over a beef she had with one of my other girls, said “It’s either them or me.” While she, in a very classical sense was the most beautiful girl on my team and had been in the number one spot in Playboy’s Miss Social Competition 1,000 times, she never gave me a clear picture of why she was angry with my other girl and I’m not going to fire one of my girls on speculation. So I had to let her go. She was stunned, yet, she knows that I will make a fair decision regardless how hot or ugly people think she is.
THIS is congruence in its purest form. 
Why do I tell you this story? 
Because at the end of the day, especially if you want to get laid, you have to have sexual congruence. You can’t say to a girl “Oh, look at her, she’s such a slut,” then expect her to give you a blowjob. That’s incongruent and, if you are doing this, you may win her short-term favor yet you will be doomed to stay in the friend zone FOREVER!!!
See, more often than not, what turns a woman on or what she wants sexually is something that she is not going to want to tell you because it is taboo. Go to and the second most popular section there is the “Taboo” section.  Yet, if 95% of the pick up artists are afraid of the very thing that women crave the most (or in this case, second to the most) then how can they really satisfy them?  
Does this mean that you have to yell your darkest sexual fantasies on a rooftop? Of course not. All it means is that you have a “to each his own” attitude towards sexually deviant behaviour.  As long as it’s legal and you don’t join the wimp train, like every other AFC who will say anything to ‘just stay friends’ with a woman. Stand for what you believe in so that women feel comfortable enough to open themselves up to you at an earth-shattering level. 


I have been fortunate enough to have been able to present a lot of great material in the cliff’s list newsletters and now on the website that have made a significant difference in many guy’s lives.

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