This happens to me. Girls approach me a lot. And if I am talking to a girl in a store or a waitress or something, I can #close her so damn fast that I hardly bother anymore.
I just can simply intuit whether or not I will be successful with a particular girl. I can see it in their eyes and their body language.
Don’t get me wrong. I still have a hard time getting the girls I *really* want. Usually the girls I get together with are just “for now”. And that sucks.
I get crushes and AFC oneitis bullshit all the time. However, most girls are relatively easy for me to seduce. I dunno why. I guess it’s because I have always surrounded myself with beauties. I just can’t get enough of them. So if I just turn on the charm and start smooth talking, I usually get good results.
I tend towards being cocky and funny. And I think sometimes it can be too much. I have been told that I can be intimidating to girls. Even if I am just joking. And I am thinking, wtf? I am the most down to earth guy and I just love to laugh and have fun. However, they can sense when you are used to winning with girls. And it can tend to CB you sometimes. I don’t know how many times I have been told by women (after they get to know me) that I am not like they thought I was. They thought I was unapproachable or already taken – so they wouldn’t approach me. That sucks.
I think maybe it is because I am fearless when it comes to women. And they can smell that.
An example of a girl approaching:
Yesterday, I went for coffee with my ex-wife in the shopping mall. She is an absolute stunner and great social proof. We get together all the time and laugh and have a good time.
Anyway, I was walking in the mall with her when a gorgeous girl in red lipstick walked by (love red lipstick). She smiled at my ex. We kept walking and then later after we parted company, I was walking back through the mall to go to my car.
All of a sudden, this lipstick girl came up behind me and started to walk beside me. She smiled and asked me my name. So I stopped and turned towards her and then went to work. Within one minute, I knew this girl could be mine if I wanted.
However, as fate would have it, she was visiting from Spain (my weakness = Spanish girls). She had been here for 3 months and was leaving back to Spain first thing in the morning. Argghhhh! I couldn’t get with her at all. She was meeting her friends at the mall who were taking her to a going away party for her, then she had to pack and catch a 6AM flight.
Me: Ditch your friends and come with me anyway.
Her: I’m so sorry. I really can’t. I won’t be able to get away to see you at all. My whole evening is arranged and I really have to pack.
Me: Alright, damn. If I had met you earlier, I definitely would have gotten together with you. It’s too bad. Tell me, if I had asked you out a month or two ago, would you have said yes?
Her: Absolutely. Yes, I would.
Bad, bad timing. This girl had the sweetest smile (and ass)
Um, just rambling here. Forgot what my point was…
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