It’s the age old question – now your age says you are old, but (not surprising) you still are attracted to younger women. Getting older and going through the changes that that entails happens to all of us, sooner or later.
I first noticed this when I turned 35. For the first time that I can recall, I was startled to get a reaction from women in their 20’s who told me I was too old for them. I found this completely shocking. Not that it stopped me, but it was a big surprise and it was of course the beginning of what could only become more pronounced as time went on.
But aging is a major issue for many men when it comes to meeting and dating women. Many will just give up, others will settle for whatever they can get, and, of course, there will always be a few Hugh Hefners out there who will perform like superstars regardless of their age.
But aging can be depressing, de-energizing, and derailing to your self esteem. It can, of course, be the opposite depending on your attitude and we are starting off this series of opinions on dealing with aging with the Master himself, Mr. Seduce and Conquer Payton Kane. Payton has to be one of if not the most dynamic, energized individuals I have met in my life. Until you meet him and spend some time with him, you might be skeptical about his online image and the way he comes across, but he’s the real deal. A powerful, relentlessly positive force who gives you his opinions straight and which are rarely politically correct, it’s not hard to understand why women, and people in general, find him charismatic and are drawn to him. We are fortunate today to be able to share with you his words, which should charge you up and energize you to make some bold moves in your life and progress to great success.
“Ah the age old question…
Let me explain something very clearly. Age is a number. Especially for a man. Men are like a fine wine. We age gracefully and actually taste better with age. Women on the other hand are like a cold beer. Taste great, but once you open it, you better drink it fast or else it will get warm and go flat. This is the key most men, especially older men, need to realize. We have a much longer shelf life than women. We are like Twinkies! We can stay in this game and enjoy the hell out of ourselves well into our 60’s and even into our 70’s and 80’s now thanks to drugs like Viagra and Cialis.
There are many desirable men past the age of 60. MANY! How many women do you know in their 60’s that you would want to have sex with?? Exactly!
This is the difference between men and women. I have said it over a 100 times both on my radio show and on all my products… Men and women are different! Women have it great. After all, this is their game we’re all playing. If it were up to us, we would walk up to her and say: “Damn girl, love that ass, let’s go back to my place and have wild passionate sex.” Do you think it would work?? Exactly! Good looking women have the option of having multiple men, sometimes more than 20 approaching them in a night begging to get down their sweet little panties. They have it great, don’t they? Men approach them and they get to pick and choose who they like.
Men on the other hand don’t have that luxury. They have to deal with rejection all their lives and end up dating or sleeping with women that they’re not physically attracted too most the time. But it doesn’t have to be like that because if you have game, if you have confidence and if you truly believe in yourself, you can pick up 25 year olds right up into your 70’s! Trust me, I have students of mine doing it as we speak!!
Let me explain something to you. I, myself, fell into this trap of thinking: ‘shit, I’m old’. And, I actually lost myself there for a period of time because I started thinking negatively about myself and all my ‘physical’ faults. It first happened when I turned 30… I know, ridiculous! Then, it got much worse after 40. I actually pulled up to a car load of chicks in my convertible and heard one of them say ah he’s old!!! Imagine that?! I was now REALLY old in my own eyes and to make matters worse, I had gained 50 lbs and lost most of my hair. It was killing me but I said fuck it. I poured myself a double scotch on the rocks and hit the town. You know what happened?? I picked up MORE women than ever before! Why? Because, I didn’t care! Yes, I have game. I have mad game! I can get laid in less than 15 minutes of walking into any bar or club anywhere in the world and I can teach any man how to do the same. I am 42 years old. I weigh 280 lbs, mostly fat, and am losing my hair faster than most rabbits get fucked. But get this … I am married to a 26 year old bikini model whose absolutely STUNNING and I still get more ass than a toilet seat in Grand Central Station. Why? Because I BELIEVE IN MYSELF Gentlemen, plain and simple! I am very, VERY confident and I don’t care if I get laid nor do I care what women think of me because there really are plenty of fish in the sea. My philosophy has always been… my way or the highway. And guess what?? Women find that more attractive than any 25 year old, tall, dark and handsome guy with abs.
Luckily good looking women are smarter than we are and not even close to as shallow. They fall in love with a man’s personality, not his looks. Confidence and a good sense of humour is all you need. These are the 2 qualities almost every woman seeks in a man. I am not politically correct, as I am sure you have noticed and I say it like it is. I don’t care what anyone thinks because I am a realist and the truth, my friends, is ugly… very ugly! Any way you slice it, it’s not pretty and I let the world know it including my students and the thousands of people that listen to me on the radio. Believe it or not, women are my biggest fans because they LOVE what I have to say and because they know it’s all true. Most my students are older and have had this exact same problem. But once, I give them a Makeover and a taste of reality, they all kick themselves for wasting so much time thinking they were old, fat or bald. Some of them have even ended up becoming coaches! I recently started helping women because I got pissed off that some of my students were taking it too far. Yes imagine that?? Taking it further than me and do you know what her number 1 problem is?? Getting a guy back that doesn’t want her anymore. How ironic.
So to answer your question, does age matter… NOOOO! Not by a long shot. It only matters in your own mind. NOTHING matters, not your age, not your weight, not your wallet … NOTHING! All that matters is you and how you perceive yourself.
You want to be GREAT with women?? Learn how to dress, learn how to talk and learn how to behave around them. Look good, dress like a champ, have confidence, have a sense of humour and most importantly FEEL good about yourself. Feel AMAZING about yourself! This is not just the secret to success with women but it’s also the secret to success in life. Negativity is a like a virus. It breeds more negativity. Always be positive and always believe you CAN do it. Believe in yourself, Gentlemen, because if you don’t, no one else will either. This is YOUR life. Don’t waste it. Live it to the fullest and live it on YOUR terms!”
If that doesn’t inspire you, not much will. I suggest printing this out and reading it over for a few minutes 2-3 times a day and with any luck Payton’s message will sink in. I think we all owe a big thank you to Payton for taking the time to write this out for Cliff’s List’s readers. And we are lucky to know someone with such a clear path to such a powerful, positive attitude.
How have things changed for you as you’ve gotten older? Is everything better, somethings, or nothing? What are the lessons aging has taught you? How has your attitude changed? Are you concerned about being seen as that creepy old guy hitting on young women? If you’ve dealt with this differently from what Payton suggests, what have you done? What I would really like to know is, what modifications to what you used to do when you were younger have you done to adapt to being older? To try and emphasize the difference, I am expecting a more sophisticated approach along the lines of what you might think a Richard Branson, Daniel Craig, Hugh Hefner, or a Donald Trump would do in comparison to a Justin Bieber or RSD-style young man’s game (I use these names as examples, and the intention is for you not to look at their financial positions but their ages and personalities). I am looking for the nuances that wisdom and experience have added to your life when it comes to women – things that probably would be out of place if done by a 21 year old (but which at that age a guy probably wouldn’t do anyway).
There is a world of ideas and approaches to dealing with every issue that relates to having success with women and your input is appreciated.